So along this journey sometimes I feel really low and just want some answers...so I happened to turn to the Internet and found myself on a message board on a certain website. HUGE mistake. I went to the section for women trying to conceive for 6+ months. Like I said I was feeling low and decided to spill my story with detail to women who I thought could understand or offer some support. After the post I realized that message boards like these are basically little cliches of pissed off women who DO NOT like just anyone writing in their space.
I find that the infertility journey becomes a label for so many people going through this. It's so easy to get sucked in but if you realize that it doesn't define you, then its easier to deal with it overall.
Needless to say I got upset about the message board and the sad behavior of these women but then I felt sorry for them and how badly they were sucked into the idea that infertility is their life and who they are not just a bump along the road of their life.
So if you need to talk or spill the beans....write in a journal, call your mom or your best friend or your husband. Get it off your chest...just don't look to message boards for that!
In fairness to the website that hosts this particular message board - I like the website and find it useful. When I dropped an email to the editorial staff they removed the offending message board thread and were very nice about it.
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